Divorce, not only affect the lives of spouses, however, it also affects children adversely. We are going to talk about them. Remember, these are the tendencies and not the certainties. There are as many different responses and behaviors as the diversity of people. Divorce, regardless of age and sex, introduces a colossal transformation into the lives of parting couple’s kids. Seeing, pasting love and adore between their parents and having them shatter their marriage pledge; they will all create new challenging family circumstances for the children to live by. Children will have to adjust to going from side to side between two households and have to withstand the daily nonattendance of a parent when living with the single parent. Life afterward is going to be altogether changed from the life it used to be before the parental divorce. It is no less than a turning point for kids.
Principally, divorce is likely to intensify the kid’s dependence and is likely to hasten the adolescent’s freedom. It is often seen that parental divorce causes regression in the kids and aggression in the adults. Think why is this difference!
The kid’s world is dependent, closely linked to the parents, as they are the most favored companions. They strongly reliant on the parental care and their main focus is their family. On the other hand, the world of an adolescent is more independent and liberal and they are more distant and separated from parents. They are more self-reliant and their most favored companions are their friends. Their main focus extends outside the family.
For young children, parental divorce shatters the trust in dependence on parents and they now act in an awfully undependable way. Children are surgically divided into two varied household units between which they must find out to transfer from side to side. This creates unfamiliarity, insecurity, and instability and children are no more capable of having both parents at one time and place.
Young children have wishful thinking and when they hear the news of family division; they are likely to not accept and adjust with it. They will hold onto the hope for family reunion and togetherness. On the other hand, the adult child will behave differently. He believes and accepts the finality of decisions, hence, he may welcome parental divorce when he sees parents fighting and skirmishing all the time.
The young child’s immediate reaction to parental split-up can be the anxious one. He will have many worry questions in his mind that will turn him regressive. He will be thinking that if his parents have lost love for each other; there is a possibility that they will lose love for him as well. He thinks that after separation who is going to take care of him. If he has lost one parent what if he is unable to find the other too. Such anxious questions will make him restless and his capabilities may go depressed.
There are the chances that they will be crying in bed, wetting, clinging, doing strange activities and behaviors. These can be attributed to their efforts to reunite their separated parents happily together.
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